I believe that attitude is everything. Having a positive outlook not only improves your quality of life, but it also affects your interactions with others. We are social creatures after all. I jokingly like to say “Don’t be negative” because the statement itself gives off a negative connotation. It’s just as easy to say “Be positive” which highlights the difference a positive attitude can make.
This is not to say that anyone’s troubles or tribulations should be trivialized. Surely many of us suffer at the hands of poor luck and being dealt bad cards, as the saying goes. But it’s how we handle these situations and our responses to them that are the forces which we can control.
It’s so easy to fall into the woe-is-me mindset, especially when our bad experiences are compounded or severe. But it’s those experiences that make us stronger, not just the good times. In fact, I would argue that’s where character develops.
When life gives us lemons, it sucks! One thing that makes the process easier is having a good support system. Ideally, this includes having family or close friends to confide in, who are supportive and encouraging. When this isn’t the case, local groups or online support forums may prove beneficial. As a last resort, and the most difficult of all, is finding the inner strength and wisdom to make the best of a bad situation.
Another helpful coping mechanism, at least for me, is finding something on which to focus. Maybe it’s physical health, like lifting weights or running, or maybe it’s a career path or a hobby. Finding something that makes you happy while also allowing you to focus your energy can be beneficial to the healing process. (DISCLAIMER: I am not a therapist!)
I have come to expect that life will knock me around, punch me in the gut, and keep jabbing the whole way. But you know what? I will keep getting up and fight the good fight because as much as I would prefer the bad things didn’t happen, I also appreciate the preciousness of life and am grateful for the time that I have.
When I was diagnosed with Alpha-Gal allergy, it changed my life. Having a near-death experience has that effect on people. My diet is more restrictive and I must be very cautious with what I’m eating, how it was prepared, as well as monitor skin and household products. But it has been a blessing in disguise. I appreciate others in my life more now. And, I’m pursuing hobbies and other interests, like camping and reading. I’m decluttering my life and finding what’s most important. I’m more open-minded and more social than I have been in the past.
So if I can close with just one message, it’s my hope that anyone suffering will persevere through your troubles and come out stronger on the other side.
Because I enjoy humor and video games, here’s a quote from a game called Portal 2. Take care my friends, and be positive.